If you’re like me, you’re tired of running around in circles trying to get everything done. You’re fully exhausted and feeling like there is more to do than there are hours in the day. You feel like there isn’t enough of you to go around, to do it all.
I have learned that there is no way to do it all and to do it WELL. Whether you are a mom or not, I know you feel me. There are a million things vying for our attention, our time, our money, our resources. I can do many things mediocre at best, but there is no way that I can be the BEST wife, mom, daughter, friend, teacher, small group leader, blogger, Mary Kay consultant, etc. I am learning that I can’t be all things to all people, nor do I want to be.
I have always been someone who has had many different irons in the fire. Ask any of my close family or friends and they will tell you that I have never been great at sitting still. You name the sport or extracurricular and I likely tried it. I have always loved being busy and am energized by people. I love being a part of something and better yet, creating and using my passions and talents in order to do so.
People often ask me, “how do you do it all?” I laugh. Because the truth is…I don’t.
Ya’ll, as I type this I am staring at a laundry basket full of clean clothes begging to be folded while I try embarrassingly hard to remember the last time that I vacuumed my floors, let alone mopped them. I still have to pack lunches, plan one more activity for school tomorrow and a long list of other to-dos that I’ll likely forget before I get around to actually writing them all down.
Be Fully There
I’m fortunate enough to be surrounded by some pretty incredible women that are not afraid to share the good, the bad and the ugly. Today, a friend at church asked how I was. Being honest, I told her that it was just a hard season for our family. She gave me the best advice. She said, “wherever you are, be fully THERE!”. If you’re at school, be at school. If you’re at home, be home. If you’re with girlfriends, be with them.
This is not a new idea, I know this. But it stopped me in my tracks. Despite my piles of laundry, dirty floors and growing to-do list, I can be present, face-to-face with whoever I am with. Despite the fact that I miss Q during the workweek and hate that she spends over 40 hours a week at daycare, I spend that same amount of time with someone else’s kids while teaching. I have 40 plus hours to love on them like they are my own. Even though Ryan is working 60 plus hours a week and our schedules are opposite, we can still be present in the time that we do have together. We can make the most of our time, rather than wish for more.
It is so easy to wish this crazy, busy, stressful season away. Today as I listened to my favorite podcast The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey, she talked about getting our eyes off of other seasons. We can spend so much time waiting. Waiting for that next vacation, the next promotion, waiting for the kids to sleep through the night, to walk, to go to school and the list goes on. In doing so, we blink and we miss so much of the here and now. We miss the lessons and the beauty that is often entangled in the waiting.
My prayer for you would be that wherever you are, you are fully there! Ride out the season, admit when it’s hard and know that you can’t be everything to everyone. You are enough. You are doing great!